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Posted by 64bowtie on May 31, 2005, at 1:48:05
Does Dr Bob have any children? He continues to ignore this question...
Rod
Posted by gardenergirl on May 31, 2005, at 2:24:07
In reply to Please let me know..., posted by 64bowtie on May 31, 2005, at 1:48:05
Perhaps he considers that information private?
gg
Posted by AuntieMel on May 31, 2005, at 10:23:35
In reply to Please let me know..., posted by 64bowtie on May 31, 2005, at 1:48:05
we are all his children.
Posted by 10derHeart on May 31, 2005, at 11:51:40
In reply to Re: Perhaps » 64bowtie, posted by AuntieMel on May 31, 2005, at 10:23:35
..what a simply lovely thought.
I like that.
Mel, you are just too cool sometimes.
If you're right, the poor man really must be exhausted a good deal of the time.
Because I imagine we really are quite a challenging bunch :-)
Posted by 10derHeart on May 31, 2005, at 11:53:51
In reply to Re: Perhaps » AuntieMel, posted by 10derHeart on May 31, 2005, at 11:51:40
...as my dear ex-T. wrote when he dubbed me "challenging"......
"...but I mean that in absolutely the most respectful way possible."
Posted by Gabbi-x-2 on May 31, 2005, at 15:15:59
In reply to But, of course..., posted by 10derHeart on May 31, 2005, at 11:53:51
> ...as my dear ex-T. wrote when he dubbed me "challenging"......
>
> "...but I mean that in absolutely the most respectful way possible."OMG, that's so funny!
Here's a quote from my well-meaning mother who was dabbling in new-age spirituality.
"Perhaps your reason for being on this earth is to teach people patience"
Posted by gardenergirl on May 31, 2005, at 15:45:55
In reply to Re: But, of course... » 10derHeart, posted by Gabbi-x-2 on May 31, 2005, at 15:15:59
I love it!
gg
Posted by shar on May 31, 2005, at 16:52:51
In reply to Snort! » Gabbi-x-2, posted by gardenergirl on May 31, 2005, at 15:45:55
Why anyone would want to know whether he has any children, unless there is some suspicion that his 9 year old is actually running this website. (that was joking.)
Still, don't know why it would matter whether he has kids or not, in the context of this website.
Shar
Posted by Phillipa on May 31, 2005, at 18:09:59
In reply to Just wondering..., posted by shar on May 31, 2005, at 16:52:51
If he has children I would hope he has a wife. Not to say that it's not okay to be divorced. But they had to be created some way. Of course that doesn't mean being married either. Maybe I better go away. Fondly, Phillipa
Posted by Susan47 on June 5, 2005, at 13:08:50
In reply to Re: Just wondering...And I would hope, posted by Phillipa on May 31, 2005, at 18:09:59
DB isn't my therapist, so I don't really find it relevant.. and he isn't my friend, either. What do I care? Shouldn't that be the reality of it.. and I LOVE that gg said he might consider it private.. because it's true, it's none of our business. And if I don't voluntarily share info about myself, and you keeping hounding me about it, I would consider that an invasion of my personal space ...
Posted by 64bowtie on June 5, 2005, at 23:29:47
In reply to Re: Just wondering...And I would hope, posted by Susan47 on June 5, 2005, at 13:08:50
> And if I don't voluntarily share info about myself, and you keeping hounding me about it, I would consider that an invasion of my personal space...
<<< I've never asked before......?.?.? Ask him yourself if I seem dishonest or something...
Mine was a simple question, no harm intended... I continue to be befuddled by responses to my posts, as much as I do appreciate responses, ever and always...
The messages I get might be summed up as I am not allowed to ask such a direct question when its so obvious that its none of my business and I should know better than to ask... Hmmmm..... I choose to ask, no-matter-what...... My question has been ascribed motives that I surely didn't have or consider... It was a simple question, asked only once...
Rod
Posted by gardenergirl on June 6, 2005, at 1:44:27
In reply to Fairness, please....., posted by 64bowtie on June 5, 2005, at 23:29:47
>
> The messages I get might be summed up as I am not allowed to ask such a direct question when its so obvious that its none of my business and I should know better than to ask... Hmmmm..... I choose to ask, no-matter-what...... My question has been ascribed motives that I surely didn't have or consider...What motives? Was this in another thread, because in re-reading the responses, I do not see any comment about your possible motives except shar's joke.
And yes, you are certainly allowed to ask. You can even ask more than once. Your original post stated that Dr. Bob "continues to ignore this question." I resonded that perhaps he considers this private information as a possible explanation for his "ignoring" this question. And "continues" suggests to me that he has been asked before. Perhaps that's what led to the inference that you have asked more than once.
gg
Posted by Minnie-Haha on June 6, 2005, at 10:43:46
In reply to Fairness, please....., posted by 64bowtie on June 5, 2005, at 23:29:47
> > And if I don't voluntarily share info about myself, and you keeping hounding me about it, I would consider that an invasion of my personal space...
>
> Mine was a simple question, no harm intended... I continue to be befuddled by responses to my posts, as much as I do appreciate responses, ever and always...I haven't followed this enough to know its history (outside this thread), but it seems like an OK question in general. Think of the people who went to Chicago recently to meet the doctor -- and the people who wanted to go. Many seem to want to know more about him. Of course, I don't think that means he has to answer, except maybe to say he'd rather keep personal info to himself, just as any of us have the right to say. (I guess that could be something in the FAQs, if it's not already there.)
I also think it's interesting how many folks seem to post here in hopes of getting to interact with the doctor -- flirty kinds of posts, and jabs too, of course -- to defend him or to detract.
Posted by Susan47 on June 6, 2005, at 15:25:37
In reply to Fairness, please....., posted by 64bowtie on June 5, 2005, at 23:29:47
Yes, I was just making a theoretical remark I'm really sorry, I didn't intend it to be so personal, Rod, I stepped all over your toes and it was really unintended. I apologize. Deeply.
Posted by Susan47 on June 6, 2005, at 15:28:31
In reply to Re: Fairness, please..... » 64bowtie, posted by Minnie-Haha on June 6, 2005, at 10:43:46
My guess is he's a person who runs this board for business reasons, his interest in psychology, he's making this a part of his career. But I don't necessarily think that makes him someone I'd want to know better, myself. I don't necessarily think he's more interesting or deeper or anything, than anyone else. I don't find there's much mystery there. Which is a good thing, imo.
Posted by so on June 6, 2005, at 16:50:00
In reply to Fairness, please....., posted by 64bowtie on June 5, 2005, at 23:29:47
To develop a fair idea of why he imposes policies as he does, I would want to know about family situation, his personal background, his religious and political affiliations and any other revealing information I could find beyond what he has published in professional literature or on the site. If asking him at his site didn't yield answers, I might pursue other means to get a well-informed idea what might influence a person to do what they are doing.
If I were a health-care organization wanting to hire him as a Web forum administrator, though, I would not be allowed to inquire about some of those matters -- especially family, religious or polical matters -- due to restrictions of employment law. But if I were investigating his work to understand the why behind it, it would definately be valuable information and I wouldn't consider my inquiry complete until I knew something about him as a person. The extent to which information about his personal background can be published is a delicate matter of libel law. He has made himself somewhat of a limited public figure by publishing this web site. If something happened to propel the web site further into the public view, including his own publications to journals about his work here, details of his private life -- his academic background, his family status, his place of birth -- might be more acceptable for publication elsewhere.
Besides just preserving one's privacy, and professional reasons to be somewhat removed and mysterious, there might be merit to him not disclsing too much in that by doing so he does not encourage others, at least through his own actions, to disclose too much about their own lives. Writing about one's family in a forum the family members know nothing about might lead them to feel their privacy was violated if they ever found the posts about them. In a mental-health community, regardless the good will of most members, there are probably security reasons as well to keep personal information private.
Posted by Tamar on June 6, 2005, at 18:15:12
In reply to Please let me know..., posted by 64bowtie on May 31, 2005, at 1:48:05
> Does Dr Bob have any children? He continues to ignore this question...
>
> RodI think the stock response to your question might be: why do you want to know? What do you hope to hear? And why?
I think a lot of people like to keep their professional lives and their personal lives separate. Dr Bob may feel the same way.
I don’t work in healthcare; I’m a teacher (I teach adults). And sometimes my students want to know personal things about me. But quite often I don’t like to tell students about my family life, because I don’t consider it’s any of their business. I’m usually happy to answer questions about my ideological perspectives, because I can see that those might be relevant to my professional stance. But my family life is private. It might influence me, but nevertheless it is private. In fact, I would go as far as to say that some of the things that influence me most are things I will never divulge to students (and probably not to my colleagues either). I’ve said more about myself here on Babble than I ever would in class. In class, I feel more secure knowing that my personal life is private. I figure that if the students don’t like it, they don’t have to take my classes.
That’s just my perspective, and I don’t know how Dr Bob chooses to negotiate it. But I think that it’s a common way of working.
Posted by 64bowtie on June 14, 2005, at 1:50:36
In reply to Re: Fairness, please..... » 64bowtie, posted by Susan47 on June 6, 2005, at 15:25:37
> Yes, I was just making a theoretical remark I'm really sorry, I didn't intend it to be so personal, Rod, I stepped all over your toes and it was really unintended. I apologize. Deeply.
<<< » Susan47 » I really didn't take your comments as an attack... I trust you... We done seen a buncha water pass under yonder bridge together, sorta... So, I done trust y'alls...
You deserve an explanation as to my tardiness in responding, perhaps...
Been Busy!
Not much of an explanation, belated or not.....! Shame on me! Throw shame upon my shoulders!!!
Rod
Posted by 64bowtie on June 14, 2005, at 1:59:32
In reply to Re: Please let me know... » 64bowtie, posted by Tamar on June 6, 2005, at 18:15:12
» Tamar »
Thank you for your well fleshed out response... Please accept my apology and belated response... I am usually more punctual...
Rod
Posted by 64bowtie on June 14, 2005, at 2:21:19
In reply to Re: Fairness, please....., posted by so on June 6, 2005, at 16:50:00
» so » thanx for the thought provocations...
> Writing about one's family in a forum the family members know nothing about might lead them to feel their privacy was violated if they ever found the posts about them. In a mental-health community, regardless the good will of most members, there are probably security reasons as well to keep personal information private.
><<< I did and do have an agenda regarding this simple yes or no question (does Dr-Bob have kids)... It was very light handed and light duty as far as questions go... Just curious to see if someone might know here in open forum... I'm not interested in Dr-Bob's family and private life in order to paint any mental pictures or what-not... I do intend to make my points here in open forum, not in some outta-sight-outta-mind way... I have his e-mail address for private matters, and this is a public matter for all to see, so it will stay out in the overt world... I also can make my point using anybody else as an example if I choose to...
I will continue to wait-and-see... Time and tides will help with clarity...
Again, thanx » so »
Rod
Posted by 64bowtie on June 14, 2005, at 2:23:13
In reply to Fairness, please....., posted by 64bowtie on June 5, 2005, at 23:29:47
Posted by gardenergirl on June 15, 2005, at 1:40:09
In reply to » so » Fairness, please.....[belated response], posted by 64bowtie on June 14, 2005, at 2:21:19
Hi Rod,
I suspect if Dr. Bob has children, how he might discipline them is a really separate thing from how he moderates the board.Just inferring...
gg
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