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Posted by fayeroe on February 15, 2004, at 7:17:31
In reply to Re: Is this community making you mentally healthie » fayeroe, posted by Phil on February 15, 2004, at 2:20:29
> Please, let them build some roads first!
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> That's great! We'll start Psycho-Babble SXSW.
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> I don't look anything like I type.
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> That's a great idea, bringing your family.
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> Jeez, I'm randon...it's nap time.PHIL~~~~~~~~~YOU KNOW WHO THE MAIN SPEAKER AT SWSW IS THIS YEAR, DON'T YOU?????? LITTLE RICHARD! MY OLDEST DAUGHTER IS ONE OF THEIR PHOTOGRAPHERS....BUT THIS YEAR SHE HAS A NEW BABY AND WON'T BE THERE.(I WORKED FOR WILLIE FOR FOUR YEARS...SO IT WILL JUST BE OLD HOME WEEK OR YEARS FOR ME!) WATCH FOR A RE-DIRECT ON OUR THREAD........
Posted by gabbix2 on February 15, 2004, at 10:43:19
In reply to Re: Thanks, you sweetie. » All Done, posted by Dinah on February 15, 2004, at 2:50:44
I should have done this last night
I was sort of in shock.I hope it's not too late to do some good.
(((Dinah)))
Posted by Dinah on February 15, 2004, at 11:31:19
In reply to Dinah, posted by gabbix2 on February 15, 2004, at 10:43:19
Posted by Dinah on February 15, 2004, at 11:59:13
In reply to i am truly sorry (nm), posted by henrietta on February 14, 2004, at 23:59:51
I love it when life teaches me a lesson in hubris. :)
I almost responded to this, before I saw it was in response to Shar's post, offering empathy to her for her pain in childhood.
Shar, I too am sorry. And extra sorry if my actions reminded you of that pain.
Posted by shar on February 15, 2004, at 14:37:27
In reply to Re: i am truly sorry - Shar and » henrietta, posted by Dinah on February 15, 2004, at 11:59:13
I can't think of a thing you've done that reminded me of my childhood pain. Certainly nothing to apologize for.
((Dinah)) take it as easy as possible!
Shar
Posted by Dinah on February 15, 2004, at 15:16:10
In reply to Dinah?, posted by shar on February 15, 2004, at 14:37:27
Sorry, Shar. I had wondered if your response to Henrietta's post meant that you agreed with her.
And if so, I just wanted to apologize.
Posted by Karen_kay on February 15, 2004, at 16:05:21
In reply to Re: Sorry to have upset you » henrietta, posted by Dinah on February 14, 2004, at 19:15:47
(((Dinah)))
Once again your grace shines through. Have I told you lately how much I admire you? I really do, you know... It's a pleasure to know you. Pardon me for being a bit emotional, I'm having a moment....
Posted by Dinah on February 15, 2004, at 16:11:01
In reply to Psst... Dinah, posted by Karen_kay on February 15, 2004, at 16:05:21
(Thank you. May I admit, however, that your post comes at an absolutely fortuitous moment?)
Thanks for being you.
Posted by GabbiX2 on February 15, 2004, at 16:58:33
In reply to Re: Psst... » Karen_kay, posted by Dinah on February 15, 2004, at 16:11:01
(((((Shar, Dinah And Karen Kay))))
Thanks all of you for being you.
Posted by Karen_kay on February 15, 2004, at 19:02:27
In reply to Squish » Dinah, posted by GabbiX2 on February 15, 2004, at 16:58:33
And Gabbi, you already know I'm head over heels in love with you. I hardly doubt that needs to be said.
Posted by Phil on February 15, 2004, at 19:22:16
In reply to Re: Squish » GabbiX2, posted by Karen_kay on February 15, 2004, at 19:02:27
You know guys, it can really be hard with Dr Bob and I being the only normal ones here.
For instance, I was in Chicago yesterday and me and Bob were bowling with cantaloupes off the top of the psych building. Of course he hit more freshmen but, heck, he practices you know.
He is one fluid bowler, smooth as silk.
Later we went horseback riding at his house and I had to ask how he copped those horses from Walmart. He had a big Stetson on that came to rest on his nose and covered his ears so he didn't hear me. So, I joined back in with him singing Happy Trails. His wife hates those horses in the kitchen. Hit it Bob..Happy trails to you....
Posted by GabbiX2 on February 15, 2004, at 19:33:23
In reply to Re: Squish}{ all, posted by Phil on February 15, 2004, at 19:22:16
OH Phil I would have squished you too, but you know with three women, one of them was bound to go up in flames.
(((Phil)))
Posted by Phil on February 15, 2004, at 20:05:58
In reply to Re: Squish}{ all » Phil, posted by GabbiX2 on February 15, 2004, at 19:33:23
Posted by Jai Narayan on February 15, 2004, at 20:51:02
In reply to Re: Sorry to have upset you » henrietta, posted by Dinah on February 14, 2004, at 19:15:47
> And it wasn't all that pleasant for me either, you know.
* I appreciate your grace. You seem to extend a kindness when someone is in pain...even if it is hard for you. I am inspired. It is best to take the high road.
Posted by Dinah on February 15, 2004, at 21:11:20
In reply to Re: Sorry to have upset you, posted by Jai Narayan on February 15, 2004, at 20:51:02
Posted by shar on February 15, 2004, at 22:05:47
In reply to Re: Thank you. :) (nm) » Jai Narayan, posted by Dinah on February 15, 2004, at 21:11:20
But, I still want to extend my appreciation and thanks to Dinah, Phil, Jai....all of you that understand!
xoxo
SharP.S. This potato has butter and sour cream. OMG, Am I In Heaven???
Posted by Dr. Bob on February 16, 2004, at 9:27:21
In reply to Re: please rephrase that, posted by gabbix2 on February 14, 2004, at 1:18:53
> > > I got blocked for 9 weeks calling an email from someone here abusive and threatening..
> >
> > Keeping in mind that the idea here is not to post anything that could lead others to feel accused, could you please rephrase that?
>
> I didn't mention any names.Just because you didn't mention any names doesn't mean someone might not feel accused.
> Am I not allowed to say I recieved an abusive e-mail.. ever?
I guess if it were from someone who wasn't here, that might be OK... But is it so important to use that word?
Anyway, could you please rephrase that? Thanks,
Bob
Posted by Dinah on February 16, 2004, at 10:12:06
In reply to Re: please rephrase that » gabbix2, posted by Dr. Bob on February 16, 2004, at 9:27:21
Dr. Bob, wouild it be adequate if Gabbi said "I received an email and was terribly frightened and horrified when I opened it." and Dr. Bob didn't like the way I phrased it on board.
That would be an "I" statement.
Or that she received an email, left out the descriptive phrases entirely, and related the gist of the email?
"I received an email from someone here that said I should have been xxxxx" or "I received an email that said I deserved xxxxx" for example? And Dr. Bob didn't like the words I used to describe the email.
That would have no descriptions in it at all.
It's a fine line, and perhaps Gabbi would find it easier to rephrase if you gave her some examples. A bit more work for you in the short term, but a heck of a lot less bother for you in the long term, as I believe time has proved. Not talking about Gabbi here, but in general.
Remember, we're none of us trained in these things. And even if we'd like to comply, it's sometimes difficult to figure out how to do it in a way that you find acceptable. Posting the link in the FAQ is great, but sometimes that's hard to apply to particular situations.
Even if you give someone a hand by giving them ways of saying something, if they say what you ask them to, I think you can assume that they are trying. Unless maybe you find yourself having to do it with the same person weekly or something.
Posted by GabbiX2 on February 16, 2004, at 11:30:40
In reply to Re: please rephrase that » Dr. Bob, posted by Dinah on February 16, 2004, at 10:12:06
Thank you Dinah..
Dr. Bob I'm going to rephrase it, but please try to understand that the the point I was trying to make NEEDED TO INCLUDE THE REASON I WAS BLOCKED.
If I change the wording then how can I possibly make my point?
You wouldn't block me for rephrasing to your idea of civility would you?I did not personally recieve said e-mail, however I read it. I thought it's
sole intent was to attempt to
frighten the recipient by using graphic depictions of violence and Dr. Bob did not
like the way I phrased my description of it.
Posted by GabbiX2 on February 16, 2004, at 11:51:02
In reply to Re: please rephrase that, posted by GabbiX2 on February 16, 2004, at 11:30:40
Dr. Bob didn't like the way I phrased an e-mail
which I found offensive?I don't know what you want here Dr. Bob I'm feeling strangled. I can't possibly make any point. I feel re-victimized by not being allowed to make my point no matter how hard I try to follow your rules. That's the crux of the matter.
Posted by Karen_kay on February 16, 2004, at 12:04:48
In reply to Or, posted by GabbiX2 on February 16, 2004, at 11:51:02
((Gabbi))
It sounds like you could use a hug. Good luck in trying to please, OK.... I hear you and what you're saying. Scream loud if you feel you must. But don't let things get to you. I know I need you here. And I hope I don't need to rephrase this.
Posted by GabbiX2 on February 16, 2004, at 12:14:46
In reply to Re: Or » GabbiX2, posted by Karen_kay on February 16, 2004, at 12:04:48
Oh Bless you! That's all I can say.
Posted by Dr. Bob on February 16, 2004, at 14:00:48
In reply to Re: Is this community making you mentally healthier?, posted by henrietta on February 14, 2004, at 18:48:38
> who cares how many anonymous lurkers are injured by mommy and daddys meltdowns in public on a big old board for mental health
I'm sorry if you feel you've been injured here. FYI, you can report an adverse event:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#advent
Still, please don't post anything that could lead others to feel accused or put down.
If you have any questions about this or comments about posting policies in general, or are interested in alternative ways to express yourself, please see the FAQ:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#civil
or post a follow-up here. Thanks,
Bob
Posted by Sabina on February 16, 2004, at 15:02:34
In reply to Re: please rephrase that, posted by GabbiX2 on February 16, 2004, at 11:30:40
gabbi has made two valiant, earnest, and, i feel, quite successful attempts to rephrase her statement to suit your civility guidelines. she also made a comment directed to you in her second post of the day, to the effect that she was unsure of exactly what you wanted.
i notice that you have posted since that time on this thread, but not to put her mind at rest on this matter. i feel like she deserves some validation and feedback so that she doesn't have to feel like she's on the line for a 3x whatever block just because she can't find the elusive magic words or phraseology.
Posted by fayeroe on February 16, 2004, at 21:23:46
In reply to Re: please rephrase that...hey Dr. Bob????, posted by Sabina on February 16, 2004, at 15:02:34
> gabbi has made two valiant, earnest, and, i feel, quite successful attempts to rephrase her statement to suit your civility guidelines. she also made a comment directed to you in her second post of the day, to the effect that she was unsure of exactly what you wanted.
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> i notice that you have posted since that time on this thread, but not to put her mind at rest on this matter. i feel like she deserves some validation and feedback so that she doesn't have to feel like she's on the line for a 3x whatever block just because she can't find the elusive magic words or phraseology.VERY WELL PUT, SABINA! THANK YOU!!!
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