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Posted by Dinah on November 13, 2003, at 19:14:46
In reply to Re: To shar and stjames, posted by Tabitha on November 13, 2003, at 19:07:02
Tabitha, I must be the densest person alive. I've always thought Social was fairly innocuous. I tend to find more hurly burly on the Meds board. People do get excited about their medications.
If you ever have the time/inclination, could you email me and try to explain in monosyllabic words I might understand?
The only thing I mind about Social is the turnover. I miss so many people, and the silliness we used to have with word games and fruit fun. I tend to be so earnest myself that I think of those as the good old days. But I also enjoy each new group of Babblers and enjoy getting to know people. I find it endlessly fascinating.
I guess I don't think of it as messy. I think of it more as what's not to like?
Posted by tabitha on November 13, 2003, at 19:38:33
In reply to Re: To shar and stjames » Tabitha, posted by Dinah on November 13, 2003, at 19:14:46
Posted by stjames on November 13, 2003, at 19:43:19
In reply to Re: To shar and stjames, posted by Tabitha on November 13, 2003, at 19:07:02
> I enjoy reading both of your posts when you do pop in. Social's not for everyone. IMO it's bound to be the messiest board, since there's no unifying topic for us to stick to. You get the most unadulterated, er, people-ness there.
Totally. My comments are not ment as a crit.
With no topic at hand and given that the people
there are mentally ill it tends to be very dynamic.If I want to chat, 2000 is a safe, trusted place for me. All my friends know about my illness
so I prefer real life support.
Posted by Liligoth on November 13, 2003, at 22:28:04
In reply to What about those, posted by NikkiT2 on November 13, 2003, at 17:47:42
hi Nikki, I never for a minute meant those with free email adds wouldnt be allowed to join. I was thinking of ways of stopping people opening accounts simply to make trouble. I thought that if people with those accounts had to wait a day or so & get approval from DrBob it would stop the impulse joiners who blow in & straight out again after causing havoc. Im just trying to think of how to make it better so people like you & the other long time people who, to me, are the 'spine' of the social board dont leave in exasperation.
Posted by justyourlaugh on November 13, 2003, at 23:03:04
In reply to Re: What about those » NikkiT2, posted by Liligoth on November 13, 2003, at 22:28:04
dont let a few bad apples spoil the pot..
i want everyone ..
anyone here..
we take good
and bad..
this is our site..this is everyones site..
i forgive myself from being ill..
i have messed up a time or two here..
i will not be apart of a "private...self proving club"
j
Posted by Elle2021 on November 14, 2003, at 0:30:38
In reply to Re: What about those, posted by justyourlaugh on November 13, 2003, at 23:03:04
> dont let a few bad apples spoil the pot..
> i want everyone ..
> anyone here..
> we take good
> and bad..
> this is our site..this is everyones site..
> i forgive myself from being ill..
> i have messed up a time or two here..
> i will not be apart of a "private...self proving club"
> jI totally agree and couldn't have said it better myself! :) Elle
Posted by Susan J on November 14, 2003, at 8:54:28
In reply to Re: What about those, posted by justyourlaugh on November 13, 2003, at 23:03:04
Hi, JYL,
> dont let a few bad apples spoil the pot..
> i want everyone ..
> anyone here..
> we take good
> and bad..
> this is our site..this is everyones site..
> i forgive myself from being ill..
> i have messed up a time or two here..
> i will not be apart of a "private...self proving club"
> j<<That is so true! I don't like the idea of exclusivity either, but I do think that there has to be a minimal level of ethical behavior imposed on the boards. I just personally find myself struggling with certain behavior that actually does emotional damage to me, here. And I guess I think it hurts others sometimes too. I don't know how to reconcile the fact these are supportive boards with the fact that there is certain inflamatory behavior here that I think hurts others. (And yes, I know this means I should stay away, and I have been staying away a bit. But I miss the supportive aspect of the boards).
But I also know that we are all imperfect here and seeking help, support, education, and personal growth. This board has brought out both the best in me and the worst in me. I'm sure others are annoyed by both sides of me, and yet *I* don't want to be banned for life. So who's to say *who* can partipate here or not? Dr. Bob....
And has he addressed P's posting of Kirsten's suicide at all? Is he looking into it? Is he seeing if it's from the same ISP address as KrissyP/Gal, or whatever? I do think Dr. Bob should have some comment on this situation...
Personally, *that* would make me feel a bit better about the situation....
Susan
Posted by Dinah on November 14, 2003, at 9:47:41
In reply to Re: What about those » justyourlaugh, posted by Susan J on November 14, 2003, at 8:54:28
>
> And has he addressed P's posting of Kirsten's suicide at all? Is he looking into it? Is he seeing if it's from the same ISP address as KrissyP/Gal, or whatever? I do think Dr. Bob should have some comment on this situation...
>
> Personally, *that* would make me feel a bit better about the situation....
>
And us all, Susan. Dr. Bob is tied up at the moment, and hasn't had the chance to look into it. I'm sure that once he can, he will. I know I'm looking forward to him being able to get back to the boards. :)In the meantime, there's really nothing else anyone else can do, unfortunately.
Posted by Liligoth on November 14, 2003, at 17:55:42
In reply to Re: What about those, posted by justyourlaugh on November 13, 2003, at 23:03:04
well whatever. Im just trying to think of how we can stop abusive posts here & next thing I am accused of promoting some private, elitist club. That is not what Im saying at all. I give up. This place is already unfriendly & elitist without any input from me.
Posted by shar on November 14, 2003, at 18:46:41
In reply to Re: I know this is none of my business » shar, posted by Dinah on November 13, 2003, at 18:09:20
Dinah,
Because things have become so twisted there. I don't know who's who, I don't feel the same sense of community that I did years ago when people were 'real,' and I don't trust what seems to be the very large increase in trollers, and/or people who just use different names.This has become a much more anonymous board to me, which I don't have that much interest in. (Sorry about that dangling preposition, there.) I never know with whom I am speaking.
At least at PB 2000 I know who people are, and I post at admin because that's a part of the board I'm concerned about. (dang! another dangling preposition!)
Thanks for asking, as I miss you.
Shar
Posted by Dinah on November 14, 2003, at 20:12:40
In reply to Re: I know this is none of my business » Dinah, posted by shar on November 14, 2003, at 18:46:41
Ah, now there's a reason I understand. I too find name changes disconcerting. I hope Dr. Bob's new rule will help that some. I know people don't have to tell you who they were, but at least you'll know you knew them before.
Oh well, I guess our paths will have to cross on Admin. I don't qualify for 2000, and you don't seem to frequent Psychological (my personal favorite board).
I'm glad you miss me, too. But I'll bet you don't miss my voluminous dangling prepositions. :D
Posted by Dinah on November 14, 2003, at 20:33:22
In reply to Re: What about those, posted by Liligoth on November 14, 2003, at 17:55:42
> I give up. This place is already unfriendly & elitist without any input from me.
??? Elitist and unfriendly? I doubt anyone has that intention...
Posted by stjames on November 14, 2003, at 22:56:15
In reply to Re: What about those » Liligoth, posted by Dinah on November 14, 2003, at 20:33:22
> > I give up. This place is already unfriendly & elitist without any input from me.
>
> ??? Elitist and unfriendly? I doubt anyone has that intention...
>
>
So the faking of suicide is intended to make us feel.... ?
Posted by Dinah on November 14, 2003, at 23:10:51
In reply to Re: What about those, posted by stjames on November 14, 2003, at 22:56:15
Well, it's many things, but not really elitist.
Posted by Liligoth on November 15, 2003, at 0:57:44
In reply to Re: What about those » Liligoth, posted by Dinah on November 14, 2003, at 20:33:22
> > I give up. This place is already unfriendly & elitist without any input from me.
>
> ??? Elitist and unfriendly? I doubt anyone has that intention...
>
>I was using someone elses words. I think it is cliquey, not elitist.
Posted by Dinah on November 15, 2003, at 1:29:20
In reply to Re: What about those » Dinah, posted by Liligoth on November 15, 2003, at 0:57:44
>
> I was using someone elses words. I think it is cliquey, not elitist.
>
>Oh.
Well, I remember the days of high school and cliques. It wasn't a pleasant feeling. I'm sorry you are having that feeling now.
Posted by justyourlaugh on November 15, 2003, at 12:58:18
In reply to Re: What about those, posted by Liligoth on November 14, 2003, at 17:55:42
i never ment to hurt you..
i can see that you are very sensative and i am sorry that you thought i was "accusing"..
my intention was to "share" my viewpoint..
i am not unfriendly or do i concider myself apart of an elitest group..
?
i dont know what else to say other than i feel very much that you are a wonderful member to these boards..
we all can see it in your thoughtful..well written and kind posts...j
Posted by Liligoth on November 15, 2003, at 23:45:51
In reply to liligoth..., posted by justyourlaugh on November 15, 2003, at 12:58:18
> i never ment to hurt you..
> i can see that you are very sensative and i am sorry that you thought i was "accusing"..
> my intention was to "share" my viewpoint..
> i am not unfriendly or do i concider myself apart of an elitest group..
> ?
> i dont know what else to say other than i feel very much that you are a wonderful member to these boards..
> we all can see it in your thoughtful..well written and kind posts...
>
> j
>that's ok, I was feeling a bit overly sensitive. Thanks for your reassuring reply & nice words jyl
Posted by Dr. Bob on November 16, 2003, at 10:28:21
In reply to Re: What about those, posted by Liligoth on November 14, 2003, at 17:55:42
> Would there be a way to keep my name, Susan J, yet change my e-mail address if that rule is imposed?
>
> Susan JThere already is, just "update your registration" with a different e-mail address.
--
> I'm really starting to seriously consider giving this place up entirely. First theres the idea that we can pay, but that rules me out as I have no credit card.
>
> NikkiT2I hope you don't give up on us, but do what you think is best. Do you have a bank account? I think that would be enough for PayPal...
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> I think it would make people take being part of the board a little more seriously if their identity was known to DrBob
I've been wondering about that, too. What if that were required of everyone?
> Im just trying to think of how we can stop abusive posts here & next thing I am accused of promoting some private, elitist club.
That's one thing that's tricky about this. Making it more restrictive might make it more civil, but also makes it, well, more restrictive.
> This place is already unfriendly & elitist without any input from me.
>
> LiligothPlease don't post anything that could lead others to feel accused or put down, thanks.
Bob
Posted by tabitha on November 16, 2003, at 20:04:59
In reply to Re: restrictions, posted by Dr. Bob on November 16, 2003, at 10:28:21
> > I think it would make people take being part of the board a little more seriously if their identity was known to DrBob
>
> I've been wondering about that, too. What if that were required of everyone?How would you verify the information?
Posted by Dr. Bob on November 17, 2003, at 2:46:10
In reply to Re: restrictions » Dr. Bob, posted by tabitha on November 16, 2003, at 20:04:59
> > > I think it would make people take being part of the board a little more seriously if their identity was known to DrBob
> >
> > I've been wondering about that, too. What if that were required of everyone?
>
> How would you verify the information?As part of a credit card or PayPal transaction?
Bob
Posted by jay on November 17, 2003, at 21:09:00
In reply to Re: I know this is none of my business » Dinah, posted by shar on November 14, 2003, at 18:46:41
I asked Doc Bob about this, as many of us on P2001 where also likely around in 2000 and before, but under a different name. Many years have passed. Please, Doc Bob, let us 2001'ers who's board you closed down, move to 2000...if the folks at 2000 don't mind. Can we have a vote or something?
Jay
Posted by Elle2021 on November 18, 2003, at 7:10:57
In reply to Re: restrictions, posted by Dr. Bob on November 17, 2003, at 2:46:10
> > > > I think it would make people take being part of the board a little more seriously if their identity was known to DrBob
If my identity was known to Dr. Bob or anyone on this board I wouldn't be a part of it. I like it because I can anonymously share my problems and get feedback. A lot of people have issues with trust and wouldn't be able to be so open in their posts if they weren't anonymous. I think this board would lose a lot of members if that rule was imposed.
Elle
Posted by stjames on November 18, 2003, at 11:35:28
In reply to Can P2001 people move to P2000?? Please!??, posted by jay on November 17, 2003, at 21:09:00
> I asked Doc Bob about this, as many of us on P2001 where also likely around in 2000 and before, but under a different name.
Then in this case you just ask dr bob and he can credit you. It says this on the 2000 page.
Posted by jay on November 19, 2003, at 11:30:59
In reply to Re: Can P2001 people move to P2000?? Please!??, posted by stjames on November 18, 2003, at 11:35:28
> > I asked Doc Bob about this, as many of us on P2001 where also likely around in 2000 and before, but under a different name.
>
> Then in this case you just ask dr bob and he >can credit you. It says this on the 2000 page.Ya I did, and he said if I couldn't identify my handle...than "no". But I can't quite figure out which "handle" is mine. (from the list.it was a long time ago and so many) I know for a fact I posted in 2000, because of a hospitalization and I recall me asking about a drug that I had never used. But, there are just so many names, posts...it's close to impossible to pin down and remember which one was mine.
Thanks,
Jay
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