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Posted by Amandafran on August 20, 2007, at 19:34:24
One of my big problems is obsessing. I obsess over EVERYTHING.Today I had said something to someone that my therapist had told me and it wasnt exactly as he told me...and he found out...but he wasnt mad at me...but I feel horrible. It wasnt anything major we had been talking in session about my cousin who I had a major blow up with..and he was questioning that we would ever be friends again...and I told my cousin that..and forwarded the email to my therapist and well, he responded back saying he didnt recall saying that we could never be friends. I feel like an idiot. But see, this isnt a big deal and I have made it huge.
My therapist told me through email that he wasnt upset with me that it was my decision and I can say what I want...but that makes me look and feel like a liar. Im the kind of person that has to hear something to believe it...I cannot just read an email and be ok. Esp. coming from my therapist.
I asked him to call me but he is going to be therapeutic and not call me...and I then emailed him and told him I was sorry for being the way that I am being...I hate being so obsessive...
I ended up taking 8mg of valium which is NOT the dose Im supposed to take...because I want to mellow out...but I know that was wrong.
AND I just got an email from my T and he said stop obsessing it isnt helpful...what does that mean..helpful to HIM or to ME?
I hate obsessing.
Posted by blueboy on August 21, 2007, at 11:46:02
In reply to I cannot stop obsessing, posted by Amandafran on August 20, 2007, at 19:34:24
Sorry for your troubles. It's the whole problem with obsession, by definition you can't stop doing it.
Your therapist sounds okay. You should maybe use this as an example of obsessing and try to work through it in therapy. Some sort of CBT might be helpful to shorten the duration.
Posted by fuzz54 on August 21, 2007, at 13:43:28
In reply to Re: I cannot stop obsessing, posted by blueboy on August 21, 2007, at 11:46:02
Two things that helped me to stop obsessing:
1) Thought stopping. Determine things that you don't need to think about and then when you catch yourself thinking about them yell "STOP!" in your head and think about something else. Do this over and over for as long as you need. Eventually my mind gave up and let go of the things I was obsessing about. Although it could take me a week or two for it to work when it was really bad.
2) Put on some headphones (no music) to keep you from hearing the outside world. Then try to breathe as deep and as slow as you can while only counting your heartbeats from 1 to 1000 or however high you want to go. The counting thing distracts you from the obsession since it's hard to obsess when you are focused on counting. This really helped me fall asleep at night when I was obsessing, although it could take half an hour or an hour for it to work depending on how obsessive I was.
I know what obsessing is like in general. It sucks. Hope this helps.
jake
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