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Posted by HelpMeUnderstand on June 28, 2006, at 12:05:54
My boyfriend started taking Lexapro 2wks and 1 day ago. Was nauseous the first day and then fine. Noticed changes in how he could control his emotions within days. Has had some sexual side effects off and on. But my big concern is just in the last couple of days he is pushing everyone away, including me. And Yes I'm the only one who has been there for him and supported him in every way from when this all started. But we were together before it all started. And now he is not wanting to spend time with his kids either, he still does some but its more tolerating their time together not enjoying it or wanting to be there. He was released after only 1 week in the hospital and told he only had depression and that they would medicate him with lexapro and as he was able to handle his emotions they would eventually cut him back and eventually ween him off. He had been seeing a counselor there and before he went in but since he's been out his counselor is on maternity leave and he refuses to start with a new one.
I just don't understand why he's pushing everyone away now. He says he's ok with being alone for the first time in a long time. And he needs this time away from EVERYONE to face things, figure them out and deal with them so he can move on.
So what does everyone think. Is this normal? Could it be the meds? What?
Posted by Phillipa on June 28, 2006, at 13:26:10
In reply to Lexapro side effects, posted by HelpMeUnderstand on June 28, 2006, at 12:05:54
Sounds like he wants time to reevaluate his life. Could be good or could be bad. Have to wait and see or call his doctor and tell him how he's acting and if he thinks it's a problem. Love Phillipa
Posted by joslynn on June 29, 2006, at 16:38:05
In reply to Lexapro side effects, posted by HelpMeUnderstand on June 28, 2006, at 12:05:54
Getting back from the hospital back to a normal routine can be a huge adjustment. I would give him some space. Just my .02.
What was he like before the hospital? I am assuming it was bad, otherwise he wouldn't have been admitted.
These things can take time and there is probably not much you can do to actually hasten things along. You didn't cause the depression and you can't cure it either.
Can you just be sure to emotionally take care of yourself and your kids during this time, and not be too reactive to his moods?
Posted by HelpMeUnderstand on June 29, 2006, at 19:56:27
In reply to Re: Lexapro side effects, posted by joslynn on June 29, 2006, at 16:38:05
Joslynn, Thanks for the suggestions. As far as the kids go they are his and live with his ex. And he is seeing them a couple of times per wk whether he is up to it or not. As far as I go well he pushed me sooo far away we broke up today. He says he can't be with anyone right now. If he could he would be with me. And I reminded him I have supported him all thru this and still am and have not pushed him. I understand what a vulnerable state he's in. But I said even when you're going thru something like this you are supposed to let the ones you love help support you and you draw strength from them. Your're not supposed to make these life-changing decisions.
He said he still wanted me in his life and to be friends and maybe down the road when he recovered maybe we would be together but he couldn't say for sure. But for now he didn't want to see me or call me except when he felt like it, on his terms. And I said I couldn't do that. I asked him if he thought this all was from his new meds Lexapro and he said yes and no. He said he thinks it gave him enough control to take back everything I have been doing and taking care of for him. (responsibilities) And to be able to be ok being alone. And to quit putting me thru this because he finally has the "courage?" to tell me he has to do this alone without any help. For some reason he thinks me trying to help him, support him and give him strength means I'm trying to "fix" him. He just doesn't get that or what he's doing to us. I told him I couldn't be just his friend on his terms after all we have been thru. And I probably shouldn't have but I also told him he just didn't love me enough otherwise we would be continuing to work thru this together.
Now after all I have gone thru and he has put me thru I feel like I need to go see a counselor.
Posted by Phillipa on June 29, 2006, at 20:04:00
In reply to Re: Lexapro side effects, posted by HelpMeUnderstand on June 29, 2006, at 19:56:27
And I feel you should. And posting this on either realtionships or psychology there may be other types of advise. Love Phillipa
Posted by HelpMeUnderstand on June 29, 2006, at 20:19:19
In reply to Re: Lexapro side effects » HelpMeUnderstand, posted by Phillipa on June 29, 2006, at 20:04:00
Phillipa, Thanks for your advice. There's not a whole lot else I can say right now except thanks for taking the time to write.
Posted by Phillipa on June 29, 2006, at 20:26:39
In reply to Re: Lexapro side effects, posted by HelpMeUnderstand on June 29, 2006, at 20:19:19
You can always babblemail me and I'll share my e-mail address. Love Phillipa
Posted by bassman on July 1, 2006, at 17:09:47
In reply to Re: Lexapro side effects » HelpMeUnderstand, posted by Phillipa on June 29, 2006, at 20:26:39
It really sounds like this guy doesn't want any more of the relationship and is just being very indirect about it, perhaps to spare your feelings. But rather than spare your feelings, I think he has confused and hurt you. You supported him and he got somewhat better emotionally, and now that he's there, he doesn't want you anymore. Ugh. I'm sorry you're hurting. Best of luck-this must be a pretty awful time for you.
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