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Posted by damian on February 18, 2006, at 19:29:15
hi everyone, dont know if you remember me, been on effexor for almost a year now, i do feel better but god i wish when things didnt go so well i wouldnt have so many thought of termination. i havent done anything stupid yet but the feelings are there. For those who have teenagers you probobly understand this, i have two teenagers and sometimes the way they speak to me makes me so angry i burst out in tears and that what happened yesterday and i havent been on earthwell since. I am not sure if its because i am not better or what. But, i know this, my minds is not thinking clear at this moment and i am sick of beeing in the house with the winter blues and when they(the kids) speak with disrespect like she did it puts me right back where i was. I know teenagers are teenagers and we shouldnt always take what they say to heart because they are going through the hormone stage but when your own daughter at 12 says she cant be open with her mother because her mother is the worst person on earth well thats enough to make anyone with depression to go down hill. My son was looking for something today and couldnt find it so that was also my fault and now they are using my breaking down as a real joke. ex: why dont you just cry now mom , I dare you......please help my feeling, what should i do becuase i am about to lose it and just finish it off i am fed up with everything
Posted by greywolf on February 18, 2006, at 20:23:57
In reply to feelings, posted by damian on February 18, 2006, at 19:29:15
Hang in there.
Just because you want to cut your teenagers some slack doesn't mean you should give them a pass in the respect department. Adolescence is not a license to hurt people.
I would not take the comments to heart, and I would try to keep my emotions under control in front of the kids. It's certainly hard to do sometimes, but I've never been much of a believer in allowing kids to experience circumstances that may be beyond their years. For instance, they may not yet have developed the patience and compassion required to understand depression and respond to your situation in a supportive way.
You've been strong enough to get them this far. I'm sure you've plenty left to see them through to adulthood.
Posted by Phillipa on February 19, 2006, at 0:05:24
In reply to Re: feelings, posted by greywolf on February 18, 2006, at 20:23:57
Are you suicidal or just fed up with your kids? If you're suicidal call 9ll or your pdocs emergency number. Or even go to an Er they will help you there. Fondly, Phillipa
Posted by Racer on February 19, 2006, at 1:15:09
In reply to feelings, posted by damian on February 18, 2006, at 19:29:15
My theory is that, while the biological part of your depression is under control through the drugs, the psychological part isn't. Think about it: all the time you were depressed -- probably a longish time, since most people don't get diagnosed and treated right away -- all that time, you were learning thought patterns. Now, I'm pretty much NOT a believer in CBT, but there is something to it: you do learn habits of thought (thus my political views lol), and habits of behavior, and those will stick around after the biology is brought into control.
Have you thought about therapy? Either individual or family or both? I think that's probably going to help most at this point.
And congratulations on finding a med that works.
Posted by fenix on February 20, 2006, at 9:41:51
In reply to Re: feelings » damian, posted by Racer on February 19, 2006, at 1:15:09
> My theory is that, while the biological part of your depression is under control through the drugs, the psychological part isn't. Think about it: all the time you were depressed -- probably a longish time, since most people don't get diagnosed and treated right away -- all that time, you were learning thought patterns. Now, I'm pretty much NOT a believer in CBT, but there is something to it: you do learn habits of thought (thus my political views lol), and habits of behavior, and those will stick around after the biology is brought into control.
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> Have you thought about therapy? Either individual or family or both? I think that's probably going to help most at this point.
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> And congratulations on finding a med that works.
Only problem is, the biological affects the psychological.
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