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Posted by tdaneen on July 18, 2000, at 11:46:40
Hey Kath!
I haven't had much time in the past week to get back to you. I hope you got it that I was trying to be funny and make a joke with the "Mom" thing (hope you weren't offended). You are so caring and I like having a "Mommy" out there somewhere for me (and everyone else here too). Just make sure you don't over extend your self, OK?
I'm doing ok. I think I'm going to take a trip out of state this weekend. I've been invited to visit some old friend some five hours away. I think the change of scenery will be good for me. They called me from out of the blue a few weeks ago (made me cry-the brats Gotta love 'um) I think that getting away from the soon-to-be-ex, the problems on top of problems, on top of problems.... could be a nice break.
I also did something nice for myself last night. I bought a huge art book. Now the background story isn't very interesting, but last year I was VERY manic. I had my very first artistic experience. I was never an artistic child. I was never supported to experiment artistically. Well, I thought what the hell, right? I started sketching, and drawing, and soon, I was working in pastels. They became my favorite medium. I haven't done much since I moved out of my husbands house, but I thought now is the right time to start again. Who ever said that nothing good ever came out of a manic phase? The drawing and sketching really became a release and alternate therapy for me. I even found out that I wasn't really all that awful. My daughter thinks I'm alright! She even shows my pictures off to whoever comes over like I show hers off. Cute, huh?
I took her to daycare yesterday, and Gloria Gaynor's "I Will Survive" came on the radio. I turned it up really loud, and stopped. My daughter and I got out and danced and sang at the top of our lungs. She said "Mommy I like that song!" Translation: Mommy I like it when you are silly with me! So, I guess the huge amounts of drugs I have to take every day are working. I'm still boosting the Topamax. I have another week before I get up to full dose.
The husband is low key for now. He might go on strike, which means I might have to get a second job to make ends meet while they are on strike. It isn't like I havent' done that before. I just don't like spending that much time away from the junior version of me (the one that I try so hard to try and make NOT like me).Are there any repayments yet? I really wish I could help you with your dilema. I haven't been in that situation, neither yours nor your son's. If there is any support or giggles I can provide just give a yell.
Sorry I "babbled" so much today. It's gotta be the drugs!! :^)
Posted by Kath on July 18, 2000, at 12:04:41
In reply to KATH--longggg, posted by tdaneen on July 18, 2000, at 11:46:40
Hey T. - I just caught this before I'm leaving to visit my 24-yr-old daughter (who's sweet) - don't know if I told you before. I'll answer through this & I'll be back on Friday, when I won't be so rushed.....
> Hey Kath!
>
> I haven't had much time in the past week to get back to you. I hope you got it that I was trying to be funny and make a joke with the "Mom" thing (hope you weren't offended)..............It would take alot for you to offend me!!!! Although I'm 53 I feel like - oh, I don't know, maybe 34 or something!! But, hey, think of me as however you like :-)
You are so caring and I like having a "Mommy" out there somewhere for me (and everyone else here too). Just make sure you don't over extend your self, OK?
..............Yup - I tend to probably spend more time on PB than I should, but it's good for me; get's me thinking of others rather than just my troubles.
> I'm doing ok. I think I'm going to take a trip out of state this weekend. I've been invited to visit some old friend some five hours away. I think the change of scenery will be good for me. They called me from out of the blue a few weeks ago (made me cry-the brats Gotta love 'um) I think that getting away from the soon-to-be-ex, the problems on top of problems, on top of problems.... could be a nice break.
...........Sounds GREAT - congratulations for taking care of YOU.
> I also did something nice for myself last night. I bought a huge art book. Now the background story isn't very interesting, but last year I was VERY manic. I had my very first artistic experience. I was never an artistic child. I was never supported to experiment artistically. Well, I thought what the hell, right? I started sketching, and drawing, and soon, I was working in pastels.
.......That sounds like a wonderful experience...sounds like something very positive came out of a very traumatic experience.
They became my favorite medium. I haven't done much since I moved out of my husbands house, but I thought now is the right time to start again. Who ever said that nothing good ever came out of a manic phase? The drawing and sketching really became a release and alternate therapy for me. I even found out that I wasn't really all that awful. My daughter thinks I'm alright! She even shows my pictures off to whoever comes over like I show hers off. Cute, huh?
..............Neat!!! If you have access to a scanner I'd love to see some. I'm not technical, so don't know how to do any complicated computer stuff.
> I took her to daycare yesterday, and Gloria Gaynor's "I Will Survive" came on the radio. I turned it up really loud, and stopped. My daughter and I got out and danced and sang at the top of our lungs. She said "Mommy I like that song!" Translation: Mommy I like it when you are silly with me!
..............What a GREAT thing to do. I love it!! I love being silly; so does my husband & so does my daughter. I think my son sort of likes it when we do, but at 16 it's "oh boy....." Your daughter is do lucky to have a Mom who would do that.
So, I guess the huge amounts of drugs I have to take every day are working. I'm still boosting the Topamax. I have another week before I get up to full dose.
> The husband is low key for now. He might go on strike, which means I might have to get a second job to make ends meet while they are on strike. It isn't like I havent' done that before. I just don't like spending that much time away from the junior version of me (the one that I try so hard to try and make NOT like me)............I sure hope he doesn't go on strike & if he does, that it's not too long. Hey - if you're the type of Mom who does the dancing-in-the-street & sillies, don't worry about your daughter!!
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> Are there any repayments yet?................Nope - I wrote Kerry B. a somewhat detailed account of yesterday, & I also talk to Tina & Jennifer about my son-situation (I don't have the time to say much now, also if I write about it once, sometimes I don't feel like thinking about it again; sometimes it doesn't bother me.)
I really wish I could help you with your dilema. I haven't been in that situation, neither yours nor your son's. If there is any support or giggles I can provide just give a yell.
..........Keep telling me about fun stuff you do; & stuff for yourself; that helps me - to know that people are caring for themselves. The main support I need is to know that people know what I'm going through & are there for me even if it just means a prayer or a thought :-)
>
> Sorry I "babbled" so much today. It's gotta be the drugs!! :^).............Hey - who said drugs are all bad eh? ;-)
By the way, I didn't find it too long at all!!Take care, thanks for posting to me & I'll probably "talk to you" on Friday.
Hugs, Kath
Posted by noa on July 18, 2000, at 15:40:49
In reply to KATH--longggg, posted by tdaneen on July 18, 2000, at 11:46:40
> I took her to daycare yesterday, and Gloria Gaynor's "I Will Survive" came on the radio. I turned it up really loud, and stopped. My daughter and I got out and danced and sang at the top of our lungs. She said "Mommy I like that song!" Translation: Mommy I like it when you are silly with me!
That is so cool!! I love it.
Posted by tdaneen on July 18, 2000, at 16:36:27
In reply to Re: KATH--longggg » tdaneen, posted by noa on July 18, 2000, at 15:40:49
I loved YOUR personal add.
That is SO me.
So, what is the longest you have let your laundry and dishes go for??!??
(I hate to divulge mine... we LOVE paper plates in my house)
Posted by noa on July 18, 2000, at 16:59:46
In reply to Re: KATH--longggg » noa, posted by tdaneen on July 18, 2000, at 16:36:27
You really want to know?
I have been using paper plates and plastic spoons for over a year. My kitchen sink has literally not been used at all during that time. There are plates, etc. piled up on the counters, and in the sink, etc. I am not thrilled with how environmentally unfriendly my lifestyle has been, but that is just what I needed to do to get through.
I have laundry that has been waiting to be washed for all that time, too. I do wash the necessities when I have to, meaning my wardrobe repetoire is limited, but have been known to buy underwear rather than wash it!
Posted by tdaneen on July 19, 2000, at 9:08:37
In reply to Re: KATH--longggg, posted by noa on July 18, 2000, at 16:59:46
You know, I tried to explain to my soon-to-be-ex more than once that I really wasn't lazy. I just COULDN'T get up and do the laundry/dishes/mow/take a shower/whatever... I just wasn't able mentally. he never got it.
I began to believe him after a while. I was just lazy. It was a real eye opener to start reading here at PB. People just like me. People who just couldn't get the energy to face the normal everyday stuff that everybody else does.
If it wasn't for my friends (who come over to do my dishes-you see, we have a deal, I cook, they do my dishes...that way they get done at least a couple times a week, and the piled up ones too! Aren't I the clever one) As for the laundry, Well...it is usually on a need only basis, except my daughter (constant need-four year old, you know)Oh, yeah, I havent been known to buy underwear, BUT I have been known to buy socks!!
You'll have to try the dinner trick!
Don't know if it would work with take out though... LOL
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