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Posted by tina on November 16, 2002, at 18:45:46
last saturday I lost a friend to mental illness. Wednesday was her funeral and it was beautiful and perfect.
I took friday off and went to the cemetery to 'talk' with her. I brought her yellow and white roses. It was cold and sleet fell around me but I felt strangely good.....tranquil. She is buried in the shade of a very large oak tree and as I sat by her side, I found I wasn't at all cold. The breeze stirred the branches of that great oak and leaves cascaded softly down almost reaching the earth but were whisked away again by a sudden change in the wind. I talked to her and sat with her for over an hour. I felt more connected to her now that she's gone than when she was here......that's strange isn't it?
I have been reflecting on my own life since her passing and I have come to the conclusion that I will not die that way. This illness will not beat me. I may not have the rosey fairytale but I will find some purpose, some fulfillment...somewhere, somehow. That is the gift she has given me.
Living with purpose will be my gift to her.With immense gratitude......thank you K.
I will never forget.......
Posted by kath on November 16, 2002, at 20:04:40
In reply to In memoriam......., posted by tina on November 16, 2002, at 18:45:46
Hi Tina - It's good to hear from you. I was getting concerned.
What a wonderful gift for your friend to give you and for YOU to give HER! Thanks for telling about visiting her. I could picture it so clearly, especially after so recently visiting the tree dedicated to Frank's memory & talking to him there.
I know you well enough to know that you're already fulfilling a very important purpose in life, although you don't seem to realize it. Your wisdom & unlimited caring & kindness & thoughtfulness shower others with warmth & love. I think often we humans receive these special things without letting the donor know!
You've been instrumental in keeping me from giving up & despairing many times. You've made me feel loved, cared about & valued. This goes 'way back to when I first posted at PB.
I love you dearly. Kath xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo
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> last saturday I lost a friend to mental illness. Wednesday was her funeral and it was beautiful and perfect.
> I took friday off and went to the cemetery to 'talk' with her. I brought her yellow and white roses. It was cold and sleet fell around me but I felt strangely good.....tranquil. She is buried in the shade of a very large oak tree and as I sat by her side, I found I wasn't at all cold. The breeze stirred the branches of that great oak and leaves cascaded softly down almost reaching the earth but were whisked away again by a sudden change in the wind. I talked to her and sat with her for over an hour. I felt more connected to her now that she's gone than when she was here......that's strange isn't it?
> I have been reflecting on my own life since her passing and I have come to the conclusion that I will not die that way. This illness will not beat me. I may not have the rosey fairytale but I will find some purpose, some fulfillment...somewhere, somehow. That is the gift she has given me.
>
> Living with purpose will be my gift to her.
>
> With immense gratitude......thank you K.
> I will never forget.......
>
Posted by Dr. Bob on November 17, 2002, at 12:21:07
In reply to In memoriam......., posted by tina on November 16, 2002, at 18:45:46
> last saturday I lost a friend to mental illness. Wednesday was her funeral and it was beautiful and perfect.
I'm sorry to hear about your loss, but I'm glad you're letting people know. I hope it's OK with you if I add this to the Memorials section of Psycho-Babble Tips:
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/psycho-babble-tips/links/Memorials_001025155886/
Bob
Posted by NikkiT2 on November 17, 2002, at 13:29:22
In reply to Re: In memoriam......., posted by Dr. Bob on November 17, 2002, at 12:21:07
Thats really good of you Dr B... a really nice thing to do...
nikki x
Posted by NikkiT2 on November 17, 2002, at 13:29:58
In reply to In memoriam......., posted by tina on November 16, 2002, at 18:45:46
*just give syou a soft long hug cos she doesn't know what to say, but knows she will say it to you elsewhere when she can*
Posted by shar on November 17, 2002, at 22:34:31
In reply to In memoriam......., posted by tina on November 16, 2002, at 18:45:46
I saw your post first at PSB and responded there, but want to say again how sorry I am about your loss. And how glad I am that you made a choice to live.
And I think Kath is right on, you are fulfilling a purpose here, that is sorely needed.
xoxo
Shar
Posted by tina on November 18, 2002, at 18:49:21
In reply to Re: In memoriam......., posted by Dr. Bob on November 17, 2002, at 12:21:07
thank you. that's nice of you.
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