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Posted by Larry Hoover on June 6, 2005, at 9:07:05
In reply to Re: Careful this is expl. could trigger I suppose? » Susan47, posted by alexandra_k on June 5, 2005, at 23:09:16
> >And I'm sick and tired of men who spend half their life in the john, and burp and snort and f*rt and sweat like nobody's business, then expect you to feel sexual toward them.
>
> Sigh.
> I dare say they don't notice.
> Stuff like that really doesn't seem to bug them.
> I don't know what thats about...
>
> Larry?????Eh?
I'm sorry. I wasn't listening. I was in the john, burping and f*rting.
Lar
Posted by Larry Hoover on June 6, 2005, at 9:11:07
In reply to Dear Tender Lar' (This is about male sex, could, posted by Susan47 on June 5, 2005, at 21:54:55
> *trigger*, fathers and little girls, you know, but nothing bad ...
> I'll think about this, I love that you got the dock thing, the heavy chains, though, I've always thought and I know this is going to sound too revealing, and maybe unwelcome to some women, might be a trigger, but I've always thought of my own father's.. you know.. penis.. as being heavy and huge. Which it is, it's pretty big.. and it looks heavy .. and the huge heavy chain definitely definitely has the same kind of feeling about it. Whew.Did he assault you?
> Yes, I definitely feel some parts of me are "dirty" and I don't know why, I think they're pretty homely, really.
> I wish I didn't feel that way.
> Because I've heard it's "beautiful"
> But that's just really impossible to see.The first step is to "let" your lover see. I bet he already does.
> It's too wrapped up with feelings about associating with, or being associated with, my male parent. I mean, yuch. Yuck yuck yuck. But it makes no sense, you know, because I find men really sexy, not all men, but a very very few. And I'm Hot for those very few, well serially, you know .. I'm not a bad girl, I've never been one, but I feel like something makes me one. (Heavy sigh)
Do you resist feeling hot, when you do get it?
> Where's your message for Sunny? At the bottom?
It's in the dedicated thread you started.
> Because I'm sending this thing tomorrow morning, first thing. (I got a bit carried away today, with .. stuff, you know ...)
Ya.
Lar
Posted by Larry Hoover on June 6, 2005, at 9:20:22
In reply to Re: Careful this is expl. could trigger I suppose?, posted by Susan47 on June 5, 2005, at 22:01:52
> I'm just sick of unshaved, t-shirt-toting, blue-jeans-and-sneakers guys who think they're something.
As a bearded, blue-jeans-and-cotton kind of guy, I might be a tad prejudiced. However, here goes...."Don't judge a book by its cover."
> They're not. They're not interested enough in themselves, never mind in anyone else.
Sweeping statement!
Alternate viewpoint: I'm not so narcissistic/shallow that I spend an inordinate amount of time and money on packaging and presentation.
> Sorry, see, my personal prejudices are here, right here, up front, but so be it. It's my personal experience.
Clear enough.
> I'm also sick of guys who think it's sexy or male to have a short temper. They make me cringe.
I wonder if the two characteristics you describe go together as a package.
Lar
Posted by Susan47 on June 6, 2005, at 11:05:35
In reply to Re: Careful this is expl. could trigger I suppose? » Susan47, posted by Larry Hoover on June 6, 2005, at 9:20:22
Sexy and male don't go together, so what're the two characteristics? I believe when I say all this stuff, I'm talking about experiences with guys, I'm really talking about my last ex- who is a slob, I got sick and tired, sick and tired of seeing this basically good-looking man not know how to treat himself. I used to try, you know, to get him to take care of himself, better care, but he couldnt' be bothered. It wasn't important to him. Now that we're split, it's mattering a bit more. But I could never be attracted to him again, because the knowledge is there, of how he really feels about himself.
My first ex- was meticulous about dressing and grooming. I loved that. Appreciated it. When a man takes care of his grooming and the way he presents, that is extremely sexy.
My last ex-husband, ohhh that is so funny, I never ever as a girl could envision myself with any man, you know how girls dream about being married, having kids? I never had those dreams. I just couldn't see myself sharing a life. I still really can't. Is that sad?
Posted by Susan47 on June 6, 2005, at 11:06:28
In reply to Re: Careful this is expl. could trigger I suppose? » Susan47, posted by Larry Hoover on June 6, 2005, at 9:20:22
The above was for you too, Larry, I forgot to add your name. And yes, I do make sweeping statements and I'm aware of their falsehoods, even as I'm making them, but it just feels good to vent.
Posted by caraher on June 6, 2005, at 14:48:02
In reply to Re: Careful this is expl. could trigger I suppose?, posted by Susan47 on June 6, 2005, at 11:05:35
> I never had those dreams. I just couldn't see myself sharing a life. I still really can't. Is that sad?
It doesn't have to be sad. Your life is yours, to make of it what you will. Who needs to "be like everyone else" anyway?
Posted by Susan47 on June 6, 2005, at 15:08:00
In reply to Re: Careful this is expl. could trigger I suppose?, posted by caraher on June 6, 2005, at 14:48:02
In one way, I agree. Because I have my beautiful children, they are a very big part of my life. But I do not want to be an old person, alone. Which is why I guess it's really important for someone like me to keep making new friends all the time. And I'm not going to whine about being alone, but I'm not completely enjoying it, either. Friday night I cut myself very badly with a knife, accidentally, I went to Emerg and had a couple of stitches, and I'm used to being alone in times like that, but the sad thing was that I had to leave my kids alone because I couldn't get ahold of anyone. I could have had a friend come over, I know that, but it wasn't really necessary. It was more necessary for a feeling of comfort, for the kids and for me, you know? That's the thing about sharing a life.. it's really comforting. Even roommates would be better than nothing, I think. Yes, but it's so so difficult to find that person you can really enjoy. Hmh. It's important to enjoy being with the people you're with, isn't it?
Posted by AuntieMel on June 7, 2005, at 13:48:45
In reply to Re: Careful this is expl. could trigger I suppose? » Susan47, posted by Larry Hoover on June 6, 2005, at 9:20:22
I agree that not all men are boors. In fact, I've had the opposite experience - most men I meet make wonderful friends.
And I'm sure my bearded, jeans-and-cotton hubby would agree. When we're through having our f*rting contest, that is.
Posted by Larry Hoover on June 7, 2005, at 15:57:35
In reply to Re: Careful this is expl. could trigger I suppose?, posted by Susan47 on June 6, 2005, at 11:05:35
> Sexy and male don't go together, so what're the two characteristics?
What I was suggesting was the combination of flashy presentation and anger/violence. Narcissism and violence are linked.
Lar
Posted by gardenergirl on June 7, 2005, at 16:55:33
In reply to Re: if it helps » Larry Hoover, posted by AuntieMel on June 7, 2005, at 13:48:45
Hey, you didn't invite me to the contest. (aren't you glad I held back in Chicago?) :D
gg
Posted by AdaGrace on June 7, 2005, at 17:02:25
In reply to I am Amazed - Please forgive me Men, posted by AdaGrace on May 20, 2005, at 6:17:32
Those attributes aren't what makes me cringe. It's when the door isn't opened for me. When a man will let you unload the groceries because you do it so well. Whe he watches you load the car because you are "better" at it. It's when he walks ahead of you instead of beside you. It's a feeling of lesserness that cannot be described really. The pedestal that a man puts himself on, often shadows those that he stands above. And eventually, a woman tries to find her own sun.
Posted by partlycloudy on June 7, 2005, at 20:16:28
In reply to It's not about f*rting, belching, or scratching, posted by AdaGrace on June 7, 2005, at 17:02:25
> Those attributes aren't what makes me cringe. It's when the door isn't opened for me. When a man will let you unload the groceries because you do it so well. Whe he watches you load the car because you are "better" at it. It's when he walks ahead of you instead of beside you. It's a feeling of lesserness that cannot be described really. The pedestal that a man puts himself on, often shadows those that he stands above. And eventually, a woman tries to find her own sun.
>OK, AdaGrace. This person you are describing?? He sounds an awful lot like someone from whom i would be making secret plans to run away from.
That's what i did, anyhow. Only took me 3 months, too.
pc who cares bigtime about you!
Posted by Susan47 on June 7, 2005, at 21:24:41
In reply to Re: Careful this is expl. could trigger I suppose? » Susan47, posted by Larry Hoover on June 7, 2005, at 15:57:35
Oh. I don't think I knew that. That's a bit frightening. I don't know if it's true. Is it true?
Posted by Susan47 on June 7, 2005, at 21:25:14
In reply to Re: Careful this is expl. could trigger I suppose? » Susan47, posted by Larry Hoover on June 7, 2005, at 15:57:35
No, I've known really violent men. Well put-together is not their profile.
Posted by Susan47 on June 7, 2005, at 21:27:53
In reply to Re: if it helps » Larry Hoover, posted by AuntieMel on June 7, 2005, at 13:48:45
That's funny. And what's even funnier, to me, is that beards are a total turn-off. I used to kind of like them, when I was a lot younger. But now they're just something that gets in the way of the skin, for me, and the men I knew with beards never really kept them very well anyway. It's probably difficult to grow a good one. I haven't seen any men with a really attractive beard for ages. I'd love to see that.
Posted by AuntieMel on June 8, 2005, at 9:11:25
In reply to Re: if it helps » AuntieMel, posted by gardenergirl on June 7, 2005, at 16:55:33
A good f*rt contest could have been more fun than fireworks.
quick! pull my finger!
Posted by Larry Hoover on June 8, 2005, at 9:20:25
In reply to Re: if I'd only known » gardenergirl, posted by AuntieMel on June 8, 2005, at 9:11:25
> A good f*rt contest could have been more fun than fireworks.
>
> quick! pull my finger!My dad used to do that. I *so* broke the cycle. My kids do not know that "trick".
However, unfortunately, being the chemist/firebug that I am, I discussed the flammability of flatulence, to their rapt attention. In my vapid youth, such displays were known as "blue angels".
A friend of mine, so intent upon putting on a good display, wore a holey pair of jeans, and no underwear. He adopted "the position", lit the Bic, and produced a very large flame indeed. So large, in fact, that the frayed edges of the jeans caught on fire. And with no underwear.....
He ran down the hall, streaming smoke.....
We heard the sizzle, as he sat into the toilet bowl. Quick thinking, I might add.
Sometimes, I still laugh out loud. Poor Mitch.
Lar
Posted by partlycloudy on June 8, 2005, at 10:23:15
In reply to Re: if I'd only known » AuntieMel, posted by Larry Hoover on June 8, 2005, at 9:20:25
That did make me laugh out loud!!
Thanks, Lar.
Posted by Susan47 on June 8, 2005, at 10:47:00
In reply to Re: It's not about f*rting, belching, or scratching, posted by partlycloudy on June 7, 2005, at 20:16:28
I hope you are finding the sun... I did .. I started by lying out in the real thing, naked, for a summer. Try it.. have you done that?
Posted by Susan47 on June 8, 2005, at 10:48:42
In reply to Re: if I'd only known » AuntieMel, posted by Larry Hoover on June 8, 2005, at 9:20:25
My God, it's true that life is funnier than fiction. You're lucky to have been witness to that. Did he have burns that needed attending to?
Posted by Larry Hoover on June 8, 2005, at 10:58:56
In reply to Re: if I'd only known » Larry Hoover, posted by Susan47 on June 8, 2005, at 10:48:42
> My God, it's true that life is funnier than fiction. You're lucky to have been witness to that. Did he have burns that needed attending to?
He was burned. He did not see a doctor.
Posted by Susan47 on June 8, 2005, at 11:38:22
In reply to Re: if I'd only known » Susan47, posted by Larry Hoover on June 8, 2005, at 10:58:56
Another laugh, a naughty, naughty chuckle. I guess Mitch figured he'd contributed his share of humour to the world that day.
Posted by partlycloudy on June 8, 2005, at 13:55:23
In reply to Re: It's not about f*rting, belching, or scratching, posted by Susan47 on June 8, 2005, at 10:47:00
sunshine is elusive... today's reward for waking up and getting out of bed was taking my pillow with me to the sofa. decadently reading good old science fiction books and drinking seltzer water. forcing myself to really, really take it easy today.
pc
Posted by Dr. Bob on June 9, 2005, at 22:26:36
In reply to Re: Careful this is expl. could trigger I suppose?, posted by Susan47 on June 6, 2005, at 11:05:35
> Sexy and male don't go together
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Posted by Susan47 on June 26, 2005, at 22:20:11
In reply to Re: Dear Tender Lar' (This is about male sex, could » Susan47, posted by Larry Hoover on June 6, 2005, at 9:11:07
Just a sec, did I tell you that yes I do hold myself back when I'm feeling hot? Hm. And no, I have no sexual partner, so sometimes I think I'm dangerous, I have a time bomb ticking between my legs. I mean I love feeling this way, but I wish it would've happened when there was an actual person to have it with. I may have to go lesbian. I've never done that, but I think I could. Yes, I definitely could go some of the way, I mean, a woman's body is a beautiful thing, but it's not a man's body. No. Not even close. Men are fabulous, I love them. Mmmm. You men have this secret smell a woman could never reproduce. You have places I love to go, to touch with my tongue, feel the wrinkles, there, the grooves... smell, and it's lovely and soft, mmmmmm move up and it's hot and hard, I absolutely love men.
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