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Re: other ideas

Posted by alexandra_k on February 5, 2005, at 5:35:54

In reply to Re: other ideas, posted by alexandra_k on February 5, 2005, at 0:26:41

I would just like to say that my above post was not intended to be aimed at anyone in particular.

It is just a general concern that I have...

 

Helmets anyone? 2 for 1 special...;-) (nm) » Dinah

Posted by gardenergirl on February 5, 2005, at 7:54:50

In reply to Re: other ideas » Dr. Bob, posted by Dinah on February 5, 2005, at 4:57:21

 

Re: other ideas

Posted by Dr. Bob on February 5, 2005, at 14:17:01

In reply to Re: other ideas » Dr. Bob, posted by Dinah on February 5, 2005, at 4:57:21

> If someone who joins up to a smaller board reads that other people think that smaller boards are elitist and co then they may take that personally.
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> alexandra_k

I agree. If we go ahead with this, that might need to be considered uncivil...

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> > Everyone's always been invited to greet people on the other boards...
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> An *official* greeter feels an obligation to greet.

I've been reluctant to introduce obligations here... Also, if there were designated greeters, others might be less inclined to participate in the welcome?

> Extending the duties of an official greeter outside the newbie board, or adding additional official greeters outside the newbie board would help address an issue you brought up as one that you feel needs addressing.
>
> Dinah

What issue was that? I think it takes more than being greeted to feel cozy somewhere...

Bob

 

Thud. Thud. Crack. » Dr. Bob

Posted by Dinah on February 5, 2005, at 14:42:59

In reply to Re: other ideas, posted by Dr. Bob on February 5, 2005, at 14:17:01

I was responding to your own words.

> ... but the truth is, not everyone is in fact welcomed warmly. Even with the new green newbie indicators.

> Bob

http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20050128/msgs/453004.html

I'm going to go away for a while, Dr. Bob. Before I get permanent brain damage.

Or say something spectacularly uncivil.

 

Re: I just need a breather... » alexandra_k

Posted by Angel Girl on February 6, 2005, at 8:18:03

In reply to I just need a breather..., posted by alexandra_k on February 2, 2005, at 20:15:45

http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20050128/msgs/451928.html

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> Things are getting a bit too heated and intense for me.
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> Maybe I'll get a block, maybe I won't.
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> At this point all I can say is 'whatever'.
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> Last remark:
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> Angel Girl - Atticus protested against the automated asterisking system. His protest was to turn it off because he felt he was perfectly capable of inserting his own asterisks.
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> Dr Bob replied that it was a safety net and that he could turn it off but if he swore he would be blocked.
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> Atticus turned it off and at that point chose to accept the consequences of 'unintentionally' swearing without asterisks.
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> The words c*nt and f*ck unasterisked are not appropriate to this site. There were a few boo boo's when the automated system was first set up. I was just fooling around but I stopped once I realised that some people really are offended.
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> I know that you weren't trying to get me blocked. But I feel bad that people would suggest that I am getting special treatment. I feel guilty and I am not sure what for.
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> Maybe Dr Bob made a bit of a boo boo in your case. I don't know. But once you started acting out then there was no way the block could have been rethought without reinforcing your acting out.
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> I don't have a problem with people expressing their emotions. I don't have a problem with you expressing your emotions. But when they are SO VERY INTENSE and that intensity is so very constant then that is something that I personally find really hard to refrain from reacting too. That is my failing. I appreciate that. But I see the cycle being played out over and over and over and I don't want to be part of it anymore. I have to jump off it for my own mental health. I can't cope with it anymore.
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> And that tells me that I need a break.
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> I think it would be a good idea if we do not post to each other.
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> I am sorry if I have hurt you.
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> I just can't deal with this anymore.
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> I do need a break.
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>

 

I'll be taking one of them bout now... :-) (nm) » gardenergirl

Posted by alexandra_k on February 6, 2005, at 17:09:30

In reply to Helmets anyone? 2 for 1 special...;-) (nm) » Dinah, posted by gardenergirl on February 5, 2005, at 7:54:50

 

Re: I'll be taking one of them bout now... :-) » alexandra_k

Posted by gardenergirl on February 6, 2005, at 17:17:04

In reply to I'll be taking one of them bout now... :-) (nm) » gardenergirl, posted by alexandra_k on February 6, 2005, at 17:09:30

Okay, would you like the propeller beanie model, or the Nanook of the North variety?


:)

gg

 

Re: I'll be taking one of them bout now... :-) » gardenergirl

Posted by alexandra_k on February 6, 2005, at 17:33:11

In reply to Re: I'll be taking one of them bout now... :-) » alexandra_k, posted by gardenergirl on February 6, 2005, at 17:17:04

> Okay, would you like the propeller beanie model, or the Nanook of the North variety?

Hmm. Lets see. Two for the price of one you say??? Well then, I guess it would have to be one of each. I'll wear the propeller beanie myself - that comes in black, yes?

Who would like the other?
Going once, going twice...

> :)

:-)

 

PS - with a red propeller??? (nm) » gardenergirl

Posted by alexandra_k on February 6, 2005, at 17:41:49

In reply to Re: I'll be taking one of them bout now... :-) » alexandra_k, posted by gardenergirl on February 6, 2005, at 17:17:04

 

You betcha, whatever you want...I do custom! (nm) » alexandra_k

Posted by gardenergirl on February 6, 2005, at 17:51:55

In reply to PS - with a red propeller??? (nm) » gardenergirl, posted by alexandra_k on February 6, 2005, at 17:41:49

 

Alexandra, I rescind that

Posted by Dinah on February 7, 2005, at 14:26:57

In reply to Please refrain from posting to me » alexandra_k, posted by Dinah on February 5, 2005, at 5:00:17

I most likely misunderstood what you were saying. And I'm a bit touchy about my integrity. My integrity, my friends, and the people I love.

 

Count me in now!!! » Dinah

Posted by AuntieMel on February 7, 2005, at 15:46:16

In reply to Alexandra, I rescind that, posted by Dinah on February 7, 2005, at 14:26:57

I'm back from a week of illness and at the same time being in the town my daughter goes to school in - trying to sort that mess out.....

I'm ready to join in the fray.

 

Re: my version of social phobia » Dr. Bob

Posted by AuntieMel on February 7, 2005, at 15:58:16

In reply to Re: patriarchs, posted by Dr. Bob on February 3, 2005, at 0:42:11

>Do social phobics have an easier time with larger or smaller groups?

Picture this - you are a person who already feels constant guilt (for nothing), like you are worthless (for no reason).....tick off the symptoms of depression.

Add to this a huge - I mean really HUGE fear of rejection. Someone that imagines their doctors will leave them - heck may not have even got a doctor yet because of the fear. Someone that has trouble calling even a friend - or family because of the fear.

Now that you have the background - imagine yourself to be that person. You finally find someplace where you think you can be yourself. But when you look around there are all these groups of people and they are all acting like they've known each other for years.

They don't stay there all the time - sometimes they'll pop out to say hi to the rest of the crowd, but to get in you have to approach (Gasp!) them and ask.

The first group says sorry but we don't know you yet.

The second group is only open to people with pink hair.

and so on, and so on.........

NOW - HERE'S THE POINT:

That probably wouldn't happen. But it *all* happens in the mind of a social phobic. So, to guarantee that it won't happen the person just doesn't ask...

 

Re: the flip side of the coin » Dr. Bob

Posted by AuntieMel on February 7, 2005, at 16:02:13

In reply to Re: patriarchs, posted by Dr. Bob on February 3, 2005, at 0:42:11

Perhaps, instead of requesting to join a group, it is up to the group to do the inviting. I see one of two things happening in that case:

a) someone invites person A and person B feels left out

b) in fear of offending person B, person A (and C and F and so on) doesn't get an invitation either.

And what if person A declines? There will be hurt feelings there, too.

 

What if first come, first serve??? » Dr. Bob

Posted by AuntieMel on February 7, 2005, at 16:03:44

In reply to Re: patriarchs, posted by Dr. Bob on February 3, 2005, at 0:42:11

In that case, what's the point? I doubt if it would be all that cozy.

 

Re: Ok, thanks. » Dinah

Posted by alexandra_k on February 7, 2005, at 17:40:48

In reply to Alexandra, I rescind that, posted by Dinah on February 7, 2005, at 14:26:57

> I most likely misunderstood what you were saying. And I'm a bit touchy about my integrity. My integrity, my friends, and the people I love.

I really didn't mean to direct that your way.
I should have been clearer on that, though.
I don't think this would happen out of ill intention or malice.

But I do still think that people may be afraid to join up fearing what others will think of them for doing so.

I really didn't mean that people would be purposely or maliciously ostrasised(?) in order to make a point.

:-)

I'm glad you forgave me.

 

I'll tag you » AuntieMel

Posted by Dinah on February 7, 2005, at 20:25:45

In reply to Count me in now!!! » Dinah, posted by AuntieMel on February 7, 2005, at 15:46:16

I have quite lost my confidence in my ability to speak articulate English. Dr. Bob's responses seem so uncomprehending of what I was saying, which of his statements I was responding to, and what I consider basic concepts, that I have grown to think that I can't communicate at all.

I'm relatively certain that that is a faulty conclusion. No one else seems to suddenly be looking at me as if I'm speaking gibberish. But I just can't any more beating to my self esteem right now. I wonder if that is his overarching plan...

I do hope you're feeling better and that the mess is sorted out.

 

Re: I'll tag you

Posted by gardenergirl on February 7, 2005, at 22:59:25

In reply to I'll tag you » AuntieMel, posted by Dinah on February 7, 2005, at 20:25:45

I think the Star-bellied Sneech room is the best on the board.

Any other Sneeches with stars on their bellies?

gg

 

Re: blocked for week » alexandra_k

Posted by Dr. Bob on February 8, 2005, at 8:58:03

In reply to Re: I just need a breather... » alexandra_k, posted by Angel Girl on February 6, 2005, at 8:18:03

> Please don't ever post to me again and I will extend to you the same courtesy.
>
> AG

http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20050128/msgs/451928.html

> Last remark:
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> Angel Girl - Atticus protested against the automated asterisking system...
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> alexandra_k

http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20050128/msgs/452005.html

Sorry, but she asked you not to post to her, so I'm going to block you from posting for a week.

If you or others have questions about this or about posting policies in general, please see the FAQ:

http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#harassed

Thanks,

Bob

 

Re: right, first come, first serve

Posted by Dr. Bob on February 8, 2005, at 8:58:38

In reply to What if first come, first serve??? » Dr. Bob, posted by AuntieMel on February 7, 2005, at 16:03:44

> In that case, what's the point? I doubt if it would be all that cozy.

The point would be to limit its size. Why don't you think it would be very cozy?

Bob

 

Re: Alexandra

Posted by Dinah on February 8, 2005, at 9:17:16

In reply to Re: blocked for week » alexandra_k, posted by Dr. Bob on February 8, 2005, at 8:58:03

You've got my email address, and I answered you on Relationships.

 

Re: right, first come, first serve » Dr. Bob

Posted by AuntieMel on February 8, 2005, at 10:51:23

In reply to Re: right, first come, first serve, posted by Dr. Bob on February 8, 2005, at 8:58:38

Gee, Dr. Bob. Let's think about that.

The great thing about the 2000 board is that the people that can post there all have a long history together.

But that's not something that can be recreated, as nice as that might sound.

Even then, there was not a finite number of people that could join. It was just the way things developed that it started small and then grew.

First-come-first-served is (to me) the same as saying that my house is only so large, so my kids can visit but the grandkids or their kids can't come over. Even if one of my kids is temporarily out of town - because they will come back.

But to the coziness question? How can anyone feel cozy if there is someone that wants to join but they just-don't-fit-so-tough-luck-even-though-everyone-likes-you?

I know I couldn't. And I wouldn't want to get cozy with anyone that could.

 

Re: I'll tag you » Dinah

Posted by AuntieMel on February 8, 2005, at 10:56:46

In reply to I'll tag you » AuntieMel, posted by Dinah on February 7, 2005, at 20:25:45

You speak perfectly good English. Quite articulate actually.

And, thank you so much for asking, I *am* feeling better. But the mess isn't near sorted out. In fact the trip, except for showing support, was pretty much useless. Court: Come back March 3, goodbye. School: Here's the way the judicial review works, goodbye. The only thing accomplished was shedding myself of a few hundred dollars I apparently didn't need.

And the bird is still in the freezer. I've decided I'll keep her there in case I get hungry....

At least I can laugh about it now.

 

Re: I'll raise you one » gardenergirl

Posted by AuntieMel on February 8, 2005, at 10:58:12

In reply to Re: I'll tag you, posted by gardenergirl on February 7, 2005, at 22:59:25

How about a separate (expandable) room for those that think there should be no walls.

 

Re: I'll tag you » gardenergirl

Posted by Gabbi-x-2 on February 8, 2005, at 17:31:37

In reply to Re: I'll tag you, posted by gardenergirl on February 7, 2005, at 22:59:25

> I think the Star-bellied Sneech room is the best on the board.
>
> Any other Sneeches with stars on their bellies?
>
> gg

Hey! Did you just figure that out your clever self or did you know that Dr. Seuss wrote "One Fish Two Fish" with Racism, specifically Anti-Semitism in mind?


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