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Posted by Angel Girl on January 14, 2005, at 4:13:28
In reply to Re: Is reading certain boards intrusive? » AuntieMel, posted by NikkiT2 on January 13, 2005, at 14:53:16
.. but PB Social is a scary place!! *l*
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> Nikki x
NikkiWhy is Social such a scary place?
AG
Posted by nikkit2 on January 14, 2005, at 8:16:29
In reply to Re: Is reading certain boards intrusive? » NikkiT2, posted by Angel Girl on January 14, 2005, at 4:13:28
Because I suffer from Social Phobia. And as such, I much prefer to socialise with those that I know, and those that know me.
When I post on social, people that don't know me might misconstrue what i say.. but on 2000 the people really know me, and generally know what I am getting at.
I'm at a point in my life where I don't want to have to make dozens of new friendships (that probably soudns evil).. and also, there are simply too many posters at social for me now. I *know* that anyone can read 2000, but to me, it feels like I am sharing with friend and not total strangers.
Wierd I know.. but this *is* called Psychobabble!! *l*
Nikki
Posted by nikkit2 on January 14, 2005, at 8:17:35
In reply to Re: a board for friends, posted by Dr. Bob on January 13, 2005, at 23:24:55
I know it was not a very popular idea.. and thats not what I'm really asking (it was ajoke really.. cos if everyone could do that, you coudl end up with 300 boards with only 2 people posting on eahc *L*)
In my little dream world bubble though, theres just a few people I would LOVE to be able to post on 2000!
Nikki x
Posted by AuntieMel on January 14, 2005, at 8:54:17
In reply to Re: Is reading certain boards intrusive? » Angel Girl, posted by nikkit2 on January 14, 2005, at 8:16:29
I can perfectly understand. I'm a moderate social phobic myself.
I don't post here as much as I used to. There were several times that things I said were misunderstood, or my motives were seen as less than friendly. I found myself apologizing and backpeddling more than I can handle right now.
You should do what is right for you. I share in your dream, but I do remember that there was some hurt when the 2K board was created and I wouldn't want that to occur again either.
"Life is soooo complicated" [Kinks]
Posted by nikkit2 on January 14, 2005, at 9:14:57
In reply to Re: Not weird at all » nikkit2, posted by AuntieMel on January 14, 2005, at 8:54:17
Theres was a 2001 board added too.. it wasn't *only* a 2000 board that was added..
I am excluded from the student forum (though I am hoping to study, it won't be through a University as such, and so I will still be excluded!!).. I don't see people writing about their hurt over that one!!!
I'm thinking more and more that my time here is coming to an end.. but I refuse to leave as this place is like a home for me.. I've been posting so long, so many people DO get me here, and I have made some amazing friends. But every day it gets harder to not just throw my hands in the air and walk away.
Like everything in life, politics seem to have taken over. Instead of people being thankful someone, out of their own pocket, has provided such an amazing place for us, people (and I don't mean that as in everyone, just as in more than a few) seem more intent on complaining and causing problems.. That upsets me. I am SO SO thankful for this place, somewhere safe where I know my internet troll won't be able to constantly abuse me, that it saddens me that people expect more from it than can always be given.Nikki
Posted by Angel Girl on January 14, 2005, at 9:31:45
In reply to Re: Is reading certain boards intrusive? » Angel Girl, posted by nikkit2 on January 14, 2005, at 8:16:29
nikki
Thanks for the explanation. I understand. I also have social phobia.
AG
> Because I suffer from Social Phobia. And as such, I much prefer to socialise with those that I know, and those that know me.
>
> When I post on social, people that don't know me might misconstrue what i say.. but on 2000 the people really know me, and generally know what I am getting at.
>
> I'm at a point in my life where I don't want to have to make dozens of new friendships (that probably soudns evil).. and also, there are simply too many posters at social for me now. I *know* that anyone can read 2000, but to me, it feels like I am sharing with friend and not total strangers.
>
> Wierd I know.. but this *is* called Psychobabble!! *l*
>
> Nikki
Posted by gardenergirl on January 14, 2005, at 17:29:31
In reply to Re: Not weird at all » AuntieMel, posted by nikkit2 on January 14, 2005, at 9:14:57
Posted by Dr. Bob on January 15, 2005, at 4:12:06
In reply to Re: a board for friends » Dr. Bob, posted by nikkit2 on January 14, 2005, at 8:17:35
> (it was ajoke really.. cos if everyone could do that, you coudl end up with 300 boards with only 2 people posting on eahc *L*)
You're kidding again, right? :-)
I'd expect larger groups to coalesce...
Bob
Posted by AuntieMel on January 17, 2005, at 15:55:51
In reply to Re: Not weird at all » AuntieMel, posted by nikkit2 on January 14, 2005, at 9:14:57
Nikki - I didn't mean to hurt you.
I wasn't posting here when the y2k board was added. But if I were, I would have voted for it. (that is, if I had a vote - does anyone here??)
To me it was a wonderful idea. I spent month going through the archives for information and, though I wasn't one of the posters I could feel the special relationship that you guys had.
Although sometimes I feel like a voyuer when I look at the y2k board, I am grateful that it is there. It even gives me a feeling of roots.....
I too am glad for this place.
Posted by NikkiT2 on January 17, 2005, at 16:57:01
In reply to Re: a board for friends, posted by Dr. Bob on January 15, 2005, at 4:12:06
I wasn't actually!! Most of the other places I use, each member can set up their own boards and chat rooms, and 90% of get posted in once a month, or ave just two people in!
Nikki x
Posted by Dr. Bob on January 17, 2005, at 20:18:30
In reply to Re: a board for friends » Dr. Bob, posted by NikkiT2 on January 17, 2005, at 16:57:01
> I wasn't actually!! Most of the other places I use, each member can set up their own boards and chat rooms, and 90% of get posted in once a month, or ave just two people in!
OK, I was thinking if there weren't some minimum level of activity, they might be, um, retired?
Bob
Posted by Dinah on January 17, 2005, at 20:27:41
In reply to Re: a board for friends, posted by Dr. Bob on January 17, 2005, at 20:18:30
Oh good grief, Dr. Bob. As if we don't get enough accusations of cliquiness right now, you're seriously considering the notion of letting someone setting up a room and inviting who can join? What on god's green earth do you think is going to happen to the current level of people who feel like no one likes them on the board, when you go and add a feature that lets just about everyone know for sure who likes who.
Geesh. It's enough to make me think this *is* some sort of freakish experiment.
Please don't do this to us.
Posted by gardenergirl on January 17, 2005, at 20:54:09
In reply to Re: a board for friends » Dr. Bob, posted by Dinah on January 17, 2005, at 20:27:41
Posted by alexandra_k on January 17, 2005, at 20:57:42
In reply to Ditto (nm) » Dinah, posted by gardenergirl on January 17, 2005, at 20:54:09
Posted by mair on January 17, 2005, at 21:32:26
In reply to Re: a board for friends » Dr. Bob, posted by Dinah on January 17, 2005, at 20:27:41
Posted by saw on January 17, 2005, at 23:57:50
In reply to Re: a board for friends » Dr. Bob, posted by Dinah on January 17, 2005, at 20:27:41
OK, this is not what I intended to happen. I was curious because I am fond of so many and like to share in their lives, even if it means only reading. I was feeling guilty and now I know I need not. If I would like to respond to anything on 2000, I will babblemail that person if possible.
But I did not intend for my original enquiry to bring about further possible "division" on the board.
Dr Bob - you know that I have given up campaigning for a parents board - but if there are to be any more boards, perhaps that can be considered first.
Sabrina
Posted by TofuEmmy on January 18, 2005, at 8:27:57
In reply to Ditto (nm) » Dinah, posted by gardenergirl on January 17, 2005, at 20:54:09
I want a board just for me. I will post there, and reply to myself. I will find myself extremely witty and laugh at everything I say. I won't care about my misspellings or typos, because I won't notice them. Can I let myself swear there doc?? Can I even have an yahoo Open room just for me to talk to myself?? Puullleeezz????
Posted by AuntieMel on January 18, 2005, at 9:46:31
In reply to Re: Boards for hermits, posted by TofuEmmy on January 18, 2005, at 8:27:57
I don't need one. I'll just read everyone else's
Posted by TofuEmmy on January 18, 2005, at 10:25:48
In reply to Re:non-Boards for voyeurs » TofuEmmy, posted by AuntieMel on January 18, 2005, at 9:46:31
Posted by Fallen4MyT on January 18, 2005, at 15:58:47
In reply to Re: a board for friends » Dr. Bob, posted by nikkit2 on January 14, 2005, at 8:17:35
Yes I agree it would lead to many of us asking for our own boards to chat with just some
*select posters* and it would be kinda cruel to exclude some....You may wanna check out the thought on an ignore button then you could ignore all but those you know and feel safe with....You have a dream of a friends board I have a dream of siglines and ignore.....dreams seldom come true> I know it was not a very popular idea.. and thats not what I'm really asking (it was ajoke really.. cos if everyone could do that, you coudl end up with 300 boards with only 2 people posting on eahc *L*)
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> In my little dream world bubble though, theres just a few people I would LOVE to be able to post on 2000!
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> Nikki x
Posted by Fallen4MyT on January 18, 2005, at 16:02:22
In reply to Re: Not weird at all » nikkit2, posted by AuntieMel on January 14, 2005, at 8:54:17
I too can understand it but then one could make sites OFF babble where they could invite their friends to....AOL has keyword MY GROUPS you can make them there chat and message boards so many comapnies have them I think Dr Bob would be going way off civil to allow a group to break off ON the babble SITE..What would one say..we only like these people so you cannot join?
> I can perfectly understand. I'm a moderate social phobic myself.
>
> I don't post here as much as I used to. There were several times that things I said were misunderstood, or my motives were seen as less than friendly. I found myself apologizing and backpeddling more than I can handle right now.
>
> You should do what is right for you. I share in your dream, but I do remember that there was some hurt when the 2K board was created and I wouldn't want that to occur again either.
>
> "Life is soooo complicated" [Kinks]
Posted by Gabbix2 on January 18, 2005, at 16:07:17
In reply to Re: a board for friends » Dr. Bob, posted by Dinah on January 17, 2005, at 20:27:41
What a loathsome Idea. It scares me that this topic is coming up again after being shot down the last time.
Posted by Fallen4MyT on January 18, 2005, at 16:09:18
In reply to Re: a board for friends » Dr. Bob, posted by Dinah on January 17, 2005, at 20:27:41
I am with you Dinah I skipped saying anything on this thread before but joke or not this HAS to be the worse idea Dr Bob ever considered. It is a psych board and SA I understand but we all have a DX and to allow some to say you cannot join this area is just cruel and rude I know if I wanted to join a room and someone said./.OH we did not approve you...that would really be hurtful and a put down. This is dreadful and I pray just a joke. I said before maybe people who want this can set up aol and yahoo sites and ask babble buds there but ...well Dinah you said it best
> Oh good grief, Dr. Bob. As if we don't get enough accusations of cliquiness right now, you're seriously considering the notion of letting someone setting up a room and inviting who can join? What on god's green earth do you think is going to happen to the current level of people who feel like no one likes them on the board, when you go and add a feature that lets just about everyone know for sure who likes who.
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> Geesh. It's enough to make me think this *is* some sort of freakish experiment.
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> Please don't do this to us.
Posted by alexandra_k on January 18, 2005, at 18:03:34
In reply to Re: a board for friends » Dinah, posted by Fallen4MyT on January 18, 2005, at 16:09:18
I don't mind the 2000 board. I notice the same themes and same questions keep on turning up on most of the other boards. I guess the 2000 people notice that even more than me and so it is nice that they have a place to kind of bypass all that. And to just deal with people who they know pretty well already.
I am not really opposed to that one. They have been here a long time.
I didn't like the students board restriction though. I did think it was elitist to limit it to those with a uni id. Also I didn't think that we should HAVE to disclose our uni email (which is identifying) to be able to post there.
But if there were more restricted boards...
Well, how about a 2001 board?
We'd get to me (well, us all really) eventually!
Posted by Gabbix2 on January 18, 2005, at 18:11:45
In reply to Re: a board for friends, posted by alexandra_k on January 18, 2005, at 18:03:34
Dr. Bob did invite people to set up a 2001board, but it was decided against. I think they felt they were not enough of a cohort group, or the segregation idea was considered unfair. There is a thread on it in the archives. I think 2000 was a pretty tight group because they were here at the beginning when babble was a very small intimate group, it's amazing how much it's grown.
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